Ok, so that title is a bit of a clickbait, but well…it’s February (aka Valentines Day month) and the 15th (which is apparently Singles Awareness Day), so I thought I’d share different books that focus on as many kinds of healthy relationships as I can.
Coming from someone who kinda finds self-help books cringey as a concept, this was also a challenge I set for myself to find titles I would actually read publicly. This is not to say I’m judging anyone else for reading or liking such books! I just don’t like admitting to needing help, pretty much ever.
(…Feel free to recommend me a self-help book to get over this.)
With that introduction out of the way, let’s dive in!
The Self-Compassion Skills Workbook by Tim Desmond
I will admit that I frequently and freely judge books by their covers, and this ’14-Day Plan to Transform Your Relationship With Yourself’ by Tim Desmond caught my eye because 1) it’s pretty and 2) it screams workbook first and self-help book second. Also, I think many people’s unhappiness with themselves stems much of the time from being far too hard on themselves about things that are normal and natural to the human condition. We are people, we are messy. But we don’t have to be miserable messes, and here’s an actionable guide to getting on the road to being kind to ourselves!
Desmond’s aim with this book is to improve your ability to motivate yourself; regulate your emotions; learn resilience; lessen self-criticism and destructive behavior; heal painful experiences; and be more present and compassionate with others. It also contains downloadable audio recordings!
Being home for the past few weeks has definitely made me tune into more of my favourite obsession: reality TV. If you’ve similarly found yourself with more free time and want a new binge show, look no further than Netflix’s Love is Blind.
The premise is quite simple: a group of men and women blind date (literally: they will not be able to see each other and are separated by a wall) for a few weeks. After forming a deep emotional connection, these couples will get engaged. They will only be allowed to face each other in person for the first time after an engagement. The central premise of the show is this: can only an emotional connection make couples last and if so, is love truly blind?
The hosts describe this dating show as an experiment, though that implies some level of unforeseen circumstances. The show’s cast is all incredibly attractive people within the Atlanta area, so it is not hard to believe that they would be compatible in person. The main hurdle, at least in my opinion, seems to be the lack of time that contestants are given. The show’s fast pacing and actual circumstance seems to suggest that the couples only spent a few days together, not weeks. Despite that lack of time, the show ends with a few engagements and even a few weddings. Continue reading
In Meg Wolitzer’s latest novel, The Female Persuasion, Greer Kadetsky has a life-changing encounter when she meets renowned feminist and author Faith Frank at a college lecture. Greer has always been ambitious, excelling at school, yet shy and afraid to speak her mind. In Faith, she finds a mentor who gives her the confidence to use her voice. When Greer lands her dream job working at Faith’s women’s foundation, Loci, she is excited to help women share their stories and shine a light on issues such as pay inequality and workplace harassment. But Greer’s idealistic view of Loci is put to the test when she discovers the venture capital firm funding the foundation has been involved in some shady practices. Continue reading